One of the hardest things to do in life is to walk out or let go of a relationship. No matter what the cause of a breakup, learning to let go just often isn’t easy to do. It could be the one that got away, a first love, a spouse, a boyfriend or girlfriend, or unrequited love. Regardless of the situation, learning to let go of what’s over is often a very difficult thing to do and the hurt can often last for years if a person simply won’t break the hold.
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As long as the heavens and earth remain, there will be cold and heat, seed-time and harvest time, ‘friends’ coming and ‘friends’ going. Ahhh… Friendship!!! That highly underrated Institution which has the power to make or break the most powerful of Kings and the most miserable of Paupers.From Pre-historic civilizations to this Microwave generation of Instant messaging, world-at-your-fingertips existence, True Friendship has remained the utopia that only a handful have ever truly experienced.
Ask yourself, are u a good friend? Or do you have someone you can truly call a friend? Pondering on it? Hmmm, maybe i should re-phrase it and ask if you have a true friend. What defines True Friendship you might wonder? In the answer to that question lies the key to a lifetime of peace, laughter and true meaning. Many have sought this key; an abstract treasure of more value than even the riches of the lost Atlantis. Few have found it; and with the knowledge of what they hold in their possession, they guard it. As diligently as a drunk Mad-man holds onto his bottle, which he believes contains the wisdom of the gods, so the few who find the key to True friendship guard their discovery.
Why do they hold on so preciously to this knowledge you may ask?
Hmmmnnn… can it be because they are aware that even if they handed it over to you on a platter of indulgence, you wouldn’t accept it? But might instead, cast it away as something of no value?
Many others do not know the value of this friendship thing. You extend your arm repeatedly to them in an invitation to join you in the reality of your heaven; your heart goes out to them as you see them suffer without purpose, but they scorn you and your gesture of kindness and adopt a deeper level of complacency in their sorrows.
That is the reason why many seek but don’t find the key to True Friendship.But how can you blame them, when the unlocking of that door is at the very expense of their own lives. True Friendship comes with a very costly price tag. The currencies of this world are not accepted in the exclusive store where it is given.
It demands of you the very thing you have been taught to guard in all your life’s education and experience. Your natural instinct is to preserve your life and do everything within and outside your capacity to sustain yourself. True Friendship calls on you to present yourself on an altar of continuous sacrifice. You have been trained by life in the art of representing self-interest above and beyond any other. True Friendship calls on you to esteem the interests of a Friend above and beyond your own. True Friendship demands your very life of you; the very best of you to be given to another, at the expense of yourself.
It is in our negative experience of the concept, that we have collectively coined the term ‘True Friendship’. That in itself is a form of tautology, because Truth is the definition of what Friendship is.
So what sense does it make to emphasize ‘True’ Truth?
Friendship allows you the freedom to bare the truth of who you are in the presence of another, and not be ashamed. It gives you the platform to express the depths of your desires and not be disdained.
Friendship provides a mirror in which you see the frailness of your humanity; the inconvenience of your weaknesses, the ugliness of your flaws and the deceptiveness of your experience. And yet it is in Friendship that you find the courage to address all that the mirror has revealed to you. Friendship allows you to be weak when the world demands that you be strong.
Friendship gives you strength when the world weakens you with its permissiveness. It awakens the person your experience has brutalized into unconsciousness; and nurses the deep wounds your suffering has inflicted upon your consciousness. All human relationships bow before the sacred throne of Friendship; for the purpose of ALL human relationships, is to discover a Friend.
Be a friend today, it’s never too late.
4th April 2012